One thing we don’t realize is that it is very easy to lose ourselves. Life, in general, is hard, and sometimes the people we surround ourselves with and our environment if negative can affect our minds and how we view ourselves.
I should know.
I am currently in a career crisis because I keep falling in and out of love with my corporate job.
My corporate job doesn’t satisfy me and I want to leave because I want a bigger challenge and I want to do more and learn more and travel more; and just GROW in every facet of my life, but instead, I feel stuck.
I started this blog to write about figuring out my career, my finances and how to finally become free of Corporate America, and to also give you tips on what I continue to learn from doing, reading & researching on how to push through & conquer each and every day.
Earlier this month, I started doing little things that I found helped me feel better, think differently, and push through the “I hate my job” days. Self-care starts with having the right mind. So below are my 4 biggest tips
Please Know that Self-Care isn’t a one and done deal
I found that self-care actions that I could do quickly or easily integrate into my daily routine, were more effective, as I could easily do them every day, and turn them into regular habits.
Please note that these are actions I have personally tried and have worked, and continue to work for me, and I hope you experience the same liberation and confidence.
So here are my 4 effective self-care actions. Pick one to include in your life each week
1. Compliment yourself INSECURE Style
I actually learned this from watching the show Insecure. YES, INSECURE ON HBO! If you’re a fan of that show, you know what I’m talking about.
If you’re not let me explain- Every morning, Issa Rae, the main character raps to herself in the mirror to basically boost her morale and confidence.
My all-time favorite mirror rap by her is this one; “Hey Mirror Bitch, you’re looking real clean/You’re looking really bad, You’re looking like a queen/It’s been a long time, shouldn’t have left you”- Amazing right? Try it!
2. Read these books
I love these books because they are incredible and make you feel like you can conquer any and everything! If you would like to have a more in-depth understanding of personal development and self-care, then these books are calling your name.
3. Talk to yourself Every day
I talk to myself a lot, my roommate thinks I’m insane. But really, I do
When I compliment myself in the mirror, I talk to myself, because it works. I do it in a healthy way, and you can too. Try talking to yourself, and legit say out loud those things that are running around in your head.
One time, I had a little disagreement with my boyfriend (Allen), and for some reason, I was really hurt by the situation, and couldn’t figure out why. I had to stop being emotional and really figure out why I was so affected by the disagreement; talking myself through the situation helped.
I figured I was basically overthinking the situation and needed to clearly communicate with him, what was in my head.
Moral of the story? Talk it out, find the best communication style with yourself.
Lately, I find myself randomly asking myself are you happy? then I say the first answer that comes to mind (yes or no), if yes, I acknowledge the great things happening in my life and remain thankful, if no, I ask myself more questions until I figure out why I’m unhappy, then I cut those things (or person) out of my life. Period.
4. Take a different route to work
Sometimes what we need is a different perspective on life. I am one of the few people on earth that actually appreciates a little bit of traffic on my commute to work.
I like traffic because then I get to use Waze and it takes me through a different route that I would’ve never discovered if there wasn’t traffic on my usual route.
What am I trying to say, you ask?, well I’m trying to say changing things up even a little can help you encounter things that can help you see things from a different perspective.
If you are like me, you are always obsessed with paying your bills on time, and at the same time complaining about how you make just enough to pay the bills, but then I’m driving down a road and I see lots of homeless people, helpless people living in poverty and people under the influence by the side of the road. It makes you appreciate life more. If you were to trade with those people on the streets, I bet you wouldn’t. So your life is not so bad after all.
5. Follow Women-Empowering pages on Instagram
This is a very effective one. One thing we fail to realize is how much of an impact social media has on our lives.
If you’re like me, then you have an Instagram that you log into multiple times a day to catch up on what is happening in the world.
I follow women empowering pages like bossbabe, bossladiesmindset, likebossgirls, GirlCeo, Girlboss, kindnessgives etc. These pages post uplifting quotes every day that lift my spirit.